“Fake it till you make it,” they say, but what happens when we can’t continue to fake it? There’s this myth that hard work equals prosperity, that any personal issues need to just be ignored, you have to “get over it, snowflake.”
Ask any of the essential workers, and they can tell you that’s a load of BS.
Now, I’m not saying to prosper you don’t have to work hard but you need to work hard in the right ways. Find the ways that also align with your ethical playbook so you can remain true to yourself. Otherwise you end…
If the social experiment of capitalism and colonization has shown us anything, it’s that power corrupts (or maybe it’s cause/correlation; that those who go for power are corrupt or those IN power have corruptions stemming from elitism.)
We need to run our people-systems differently than we run businesses. We’re not products on a shelf, static in existence. It’s not that simple.
Self care is an act for the community greater good and it’s when we don’t take care of ourselves first and foremost that we become a burden on the support systems, but these systems’ literal jobs are to support…
Ever missed a bill and then you’re slapped with the NSF fees? Suddenly that $40 bill is charging you over a hundred from the bill issuers and the banks. That’s a poor tax.
On the topic of banks, know how all of those accounts where the fees are waived if you carry over a certain balance? That’s a poor tax.
Now, let’s think about school. Taking out student loans? You can be sure you’ll be paying significantly more than your more economically stable peers who you’ll be learning along side. Poor Tax.
Now consider the stress differences between those two…
When I was growing up I thought my parents (particularly my father) knew everything but as I age, I increasingly see that that was the intended perception, stemming from his anxiety and insecurity, and we all have so much to learn.
There was this hidden manipulation too though, to make my mother seem unreasonable for what I now realize are perfectly reasonable requests, allowing her to perpetually be the bad cop while he could be another innocent victim to “those outbursts,” swoop in as a saviour.
I think it comes from this general need that many men I have encountered…
It’s important for us to maintain perspective when pursuing social justice and equality. As much as we may want to yell sense into someone, it’s only going to create further divides at the end of the day.
From inherent shame about our bodies to insecurity about our abilities or intellect; shame is a driving factor that leads us to think, feel, and act in certain ways.
Shame has been commodified to sell products, particularly beauty and makeup products, as magical cures promising “you’ll be exactly enough with three equal payments of $24.99.”
They say there is one acceptable profile to…
We are complicated grown-up children, but also fine-tuned machines that we don’t really understand.
Our needs and capacities are similar to the gauges and indicators on a space ship. Just as if a ship was running low on fuel, if you are running low on [food] [water] [love] [purpose] [community] you will be unable to operate at peak performance.
You will have this feeling of need where you are always feeling unfulfilled.
As humans, we all have the same basic needs, but we have different levels required to feel fulfilled. These needs are driven by a variety of factors:
Our lives are our own unique journey.
We may journey far from where we start out, or we might stick close to home. Neither is better or worse, but we do learn a lot on our journeys. Whether we choose to take Sisyphus’ route and hope that sheer persistence is enough or you choose to adapt and reflect and iterate, end of the day it’s your choice.
As on any journey, we need to take things, whether physical, emotional, spiritual, worries, you name it. We start out in our lives with nothing to carry, and nothing to put things in…